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We, human beings, find ourselves from time to time dealing with the emotions of guilt and shame. We feel guilt and hopefully remorse when we have caused another person pain by our behavior.  Shame results when we carry the guilt without resolving it or making effect to correct what we did wrong. We simply sink into feeling bad like there will never be another sunrise. This can lead to depression. Five best practices can help us resolve our guilt and shame. First, it is necessary to accept responsibility for your actions and express willingness make amends or to take corrective actions where you have caused harm. Second, challenge and reframe your negative self-talk. It is true that people take us at the level of respect we provide ourselves. Negative self-talk is a destructive behavior that is self-inflicted. Do the work necessary to know when you are working against yourself through negative self-talk and replace it with more positive statements of affirmation to build yourself up...

Are you a woman 35+ who has experienced childhood sexual or domestic trauma? Are you #struggling with lingering and chronic effects of that trauma? I understand that healing from childhood trauma can be a difficult and overwhelming process. That's why I offer specialized coaching services and courses to women 35+ that have experienced #childhoodtrauma. I have more than 30 years of experience being present for and helping women deal with the unique challenges resulting from childhood trauma. I am professionally prepared to help you move past your pain to experience opportunities for new life. Services include individual coaching, #group coaching, and #coursework with a 90 day opportunity for #aftercare. An online #supportgroup is available to provide a safe and supportive space to connect with others, share experience, and encourage each other. Don't let childhood trauma control your life any longer. Take your first step towards healing. Contact me today at the information...

Ways Men that Love Women Can Provide Support In recent months, I have been privileged to sit in on and listen to conversations among men that feel lost and do not know what to do after learning their girlfriends, lovers, mates, significant others or wives revealed to them they experienced sexual and domestic abuse while children. Their initial responses include anger at perpetrators, angry at themselves for not being able to pick up on it sooner, and feeling guilty for enjoying sex with them wondering if it is causing their loves more mental anguish. Men, today I offer to us all a beginning and a promise of a new level of awareness for being present for the women we love. These strategies will work when we work them diligently. These are ways men that love women can provide support to girlfriends, lovers, mates, significant others, and wives living with the chronic effects of childhood sexual and domestic trauma. 1.      Listen and believe. Acknowledge and va...

As long as you're breathing, it's never too late to do some good. ~Maya Angelou #traumasurvivor of childhood sexual and #domesticabuse can have long-lasting effects on an individual's mental and emotional well-being. For women over 35 who have experienced this type of trauma, it can be difficult to navigate the effects in their daily lives. However, there is hope. With the right support and #resources, women can learn to #cope with their trauma and move forward. One important step is seeking help. A #traumahealing coach can help individuals understand and process their trauma, as well as provide #coping mechanisms and strategies for dealing with the effects. Another helpful resource can be your coach’s #supportgroup. Joining a coach’s support group with others that have gone through similar experiences can provide a sense of #communitysupport and understanding where you can feel secure without #judgment. Additionally, self-care practices such as exercise, journali...

The personal and intentional commitment to healing is a binding covenant with one’s self to be willing to take every action necessary to heal from a medical or emotional condition. Essential questions must be asked and answered prior to making commitment because once commitment is made, there is no turning back. How bad do you want to heal? ·         Question 1 - Is your identity tied to your medical or emotional condition? If you have not given thought to who you will be after you have healed you might first give thought to getting a divorce from your medical or emotional condition and detach who you are, your identity to yourself, from it. You must be able to detach your identity from your condition. ·         Question 2 – Can you see yourself healed? If you are unable to say yes, it means you have not spent time getting to know how you will feel about your life once healed. You must spend the time necessary wor...

There are many #paths to personal healing, and what works for one person may not work for another. That being said, here are five possible paths to consider: 1.      Therapy or counseling: Working with a mental health professional can be a helpful way to address and work through personal issues. There are many different approaches to therapy, so it may be helpful to try out a few different therapists to find one that works well for you. 2.      Self-care practices: Taking care of you physically, emotionally, and mentally can be an important part of healing. This may include things like exercising, eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. 3.      Spirituality or religious practices: For some people, spiritual or religious practices can provide a sense of meaning and connection, which can be healing. This might involve attending religious services, praying...